Volume 2 | Issue 2 | February 2017

UPSTATEEXPOSURES.COM VOLUME 2 | ISSUE 2
FEBRUARY 2017
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This month's cover image comes from JennMarie Photography of Spartanburg, South Carolina.



JennMarie Photography is helping Upstate Exposures Magazine celebrate a huge milestone by becoming our first official advertiser, and we couldn't be more pleased to feature her clients Lee and Meghan Johnson of Texas on the cover of our 6th issue.



JennMarie Photography is the perfect example of businesses right here in the Upstate who provide world class service and attract clients from all over the country. Meghan and Lee chose to have their wedding at the fabulous Duncan Estate in Spartanburg and asked JennMarie to be their wedding photographer, and the pictures couldn't have been more lovely.



JennMarie and her husband David moved their family to the Upstate from southeastern Kentucky, and she likes to go back and visit as often as she can.



"I have been a photographer for almost seven years now and I've come to realize that I'm not everyone's cup o' tea. And ya know what? That's okay. We are all unique in our own ways and that ultimately makes us who we are. I am very proud of who I have become and am working to being better every single day."

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Are you feeling the love? I know I am. For Valentine's Day this year, I want Tiger Paw hearts, Tiger Paw chocolates, dinner at Pixie and Bill's (are you detecting a particular theme here?), anything purple and orange, and I want to hear the gentle tones of "Tiger Rag" playing softly in the background. For many in the Upstate, love is spelled T-I-G-E-R-S!

We have another reason to celebrate here at Upstate Exposures Magazine. Actually, a few reasons....we have a new contributor named Heather Reeves who joined our ranks this issue and she has hit the ground running! Check out her first story called "On The Other Side of the Mountain".

But wait, the party is just getting started. This is our 6th issue!! Upstate Exposures Magazine has been bringing the stories of the people, places, things, events, history, and music of the Upstate of South Carolina for 6 straight months., and there is so much more to come. Follow us on social media and don't forget to subscribe with your email to get notified when the next issue comes out. You definitely won't want to miss it - It's the the MEGA MUSIC ISSUE in March!

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"...one of the most creative, inventive photographers I've ever worked with..." "...photos are unbelievably stunning..." "...very fun, professional, and passionate about her work..." "This chick knows her stuff!" Now Booking Upstate Musicians THE OTHER SIDE OF THE MOUNTAIN On The Other Side of the Mountain Nadine Messer Copeland lived in the upstate of South Carolina for most of her life. She and her husband, Marvin, raised their two children, Tina and Chris, in Dacusville. A small town in the foothills of northeastern Pickens County, Dacusville has friendly residents, beautiful farmlands, and picturesque mountain views that make it an ideal place to live.

For most people, a mountain view is usually peaceful and enchanting. However, the mountains Nadine faced were anything but that. As a matter of fact, they did not have anything to do with the majestic mountain region of this area with hiking trails, scenic waterfalls, and sweeping views. Unfortunately, Nadine’s mountains represented the insurmountable challenges she faced in her life. She’s navigated trails of uncertainty, shed tears of sorrow, and stared into an unknown future many times. Her “mountains” overwhelmed her so much at times that she wondered if she would ever be able to climb them and cross to the other side.

On the other hand, everyone I spoke to about Nadine’s life story always referred to her as a very strong individual. A mutual friend of ours described Nadine as being a “compassionate, selfless, and kindhearted lady with an infectious laugh.” I heard that laughter quite a bit during our interview. Nadine is a natural storyteller, a light-hearted conversationalist, humorous at times, and I must admit, her laughter is very contagious.

These traits served Nadine well as she provided care for over thirty years for many people in the upstate as a home care nurse. Nadine had many special experiences with patients. She didn’t just attend to their daily needs, she developed friendships, and provided comfort for some of them until their journey’s end. Helping people seems to come second nature to Nadine.
"My faith is the one thing I always had. Even though things were bad, I knew God was there." - Nadine Copeland Cont...
Nadine never thought she would put her caregiving attributes to the ultimate challenge with the adversity she faced in her personal life. When we met to talk about her family, she told me about her daughter, Tina. A friendly, beautiful, vibrant young lady, Tina was a free spirit with a bright smile and a magnetic personality. When Tina was fifteen years old, she developed a painful lump in her left leg. The doctors treated it as a baker’s cyst. However, scans, biopsies, and Tina’s intensifying pain confirmed this was a misdiagnosis. For months, the doctors couldn’t diagnose Tina correctly. Nadine explained, “The doctor’s were very puzzled.” Nadine felt a mixture of raw emotions, fearing that the diagnosis was going to be every mother’s worst nightmare.

Tragically, further investigation of test results revealed that the cyst was a malignant schwannoma, a relatively rare primary nerve sheath tumor. Most schwannoma are benign, with less than 1% being malignant. Nadine said, “At the time of Tina’s diagnoses in 1991, the doctors had never seen that cancer in the Greenville area. As it turned out, there were only seven cases in the United States.” Nadine mentioned that Tina was confident early on that the doctors would have to remove her leg. She marveled, “Tina could feel things and know things before I did. I don’t know how she had that foresight.” Doctors confirmed that Tina’s left leg would have to be amputated at the hip joint. Nadine added, “Tina broke down only once when the doctor told her...but after that, she was amazing.”

After one year of chemotherapy, body scans showed no sign of cancer and Nadine felt Tina was on the road to recovery. She returned to high school, graduated in 1993, and began Greenville Tech with a goal of attending Coastal Carolina.

Heartbreakingly, in 1995, Tina began to experience pain in her chest and a scan revealed that the cancerous tumors had recurred in her lungs. Nadine said, “Tina’s doctors loved her so. They did what they call a cherry picking, where they tried to remove all the cancer they possibly could.” Cherry picking is the layperson’s term for the surgical removal of metastatic lung lesions. The first surgery was not successful. Nadine watched her daughter struggle through a second difficult and, unfortunately, ineffective surgery to remove the schwannoma from her lungs. Tina also agreed to another round of experimental chemotherapy. Nadine watched Tina struggle through a range of severe side effects. Tina’s doctors were insistent that they schedule a third surgery on her lungs, hoping it would extend Tina’s life by five years. However, by this time, the aggressive tumors were already on her diaphragm. Tina and her family realized that another surgery was not what they wanted. Nadine explained, “If she had lived, they would have constantly been doing that…cutting her open to buy her time.” She went on to say, “It was God’s Will. I believed it was God’s Will and He was in control. The doctor was not. God was in control.”
Nadine knew Tina was reaching her limit. Tina and her family talked to her doctors about the toll the chemotherapy was taking on her body. Her doctors suggested trying a different experimental chemotherapy, but this time Tina denied treatment. Doctors told Nadine that Tina would only have six to nine months to live. Nadine explained that it was her choice and they knew how weak she was at this point. She said, “In her mind and in our mind, we had accepted the fact that she was going. Tina just accepted it. “

Tina went home and spent the remainder of her time loving her family, reminiscing with long-time friends, reconnecting with people, and enjoying simple things. Her top priority, however, was obvious. Tina wanted to make sure she saw her loved ones in heaven one day. Nadine recalled, “She still had that big ol’ smile and towards the end she would witness to people. It was a miraculous thing. Can you believe that baby was praying for everybody else while she was dying?” Nadine explained that the closer Tina came to the end of her life, the more she would talk about hearing angelic singing. She said Tina heard angels three different times and each time the singing was louder and closer. Nadine added, “Tina would look at me and tell me that Jesus was coming.”

Tina died in her home in October of 1995, surrounded by Nadine, Marvin, and her brother, Chris, who traveled home from the air force base in Alaska to say goodbye to his sister. Numerous other friends and family had gathered at the home to say goodbye to Tina and to support the family. “She taught us how to die,” Nadine said, “and if there’s such a thing as a sweet death, hers was.”

While grief is a universal experience for all of us, different kinds of losses create different grieving experiences. Losing a child to cancer is unlike losing one’s aging parents, relatives, a spouse, or even a close friend. All losses are unique and painful and require time for grieving, healing, and recovering. Unfortunately, Nadine faced five more painful family losses in the years following her daughter’s death. Nadine cared for each one of them until their passing. Some fell ill simultaneously and Nadine fought feelings of guilt and sorrow when she had to divide her time. She lost her elderly father just a few years after Tina’s death from kidney failure. Subsequently, the family’s adopted grandfather passed from a long battle with Alzheimer’s disease. Nadine and her sister-in-law also cared for her elderly mother who passed away in 2011. Furthermore, Nadine’s only living brother, who was also unwell, passed away on the day of their mother’s funeral.
Cont...
Most regrettably, Nadine also lost her loving husband, Marvin, soon after, due to a long battle with heart disease. Marvin’s health declined while she was still assisting with the care of her elderly mother. It was a heart wrenching time for Nadine, as she tried to meet the needs of her elderly mother, her husband, and her home care clients. Marvin, her blue-collar, breadwinning husband, always found a way to provide for his family so Nadine could work a flexible schedule so she could dedicate her time to Tina and eventually, other sick family members. Nadine reflected on Marvin’s battle with heart disease over the years. She remembered when he was in the hospital many years ago for one of his first heart surgeries, not too soon after Tina’s amputation. Nadine laughed, paused for a minute, and said, “I looked over at Marvin in that hospital bed and then at Tina standing in the doorway with that crutch and thought, Lord what is happening to all of us…to my family?” Nadine shook her head and continued, “One of the main things people need to remember is to say things now while you have time. Say what you feel. If you love someone, show them and tell them now.”

I complimented Nadine on her ability to be so resilient through the loss of her daughter, husband, and other family members. She replied, “No, I’m not strong. It’s not me. I’m just a vessel.” Nadine feels that God took care of her during broken times. Her emotions seem to be governed by her belief in God. While she says she is not strong, it seems her perseverance was, and still is, fueled by faith. Her humble heart, steadfast faith, and caring ways blessed many others in a time that she was suffering the most.

If God blesses those who bless others, Nadine is definitely a testament of that because her life soon took an amazing turn.

Later in the summer, while visiting friends, Nadine became acquainted with Earl Copeland, a gentleman from Charleston. They realized they had much more in common than just mutual friends. Earl, like Nadine, also lost his beloved wife, Linda. He cared for her for fourteen years in their Charleston home until her death from Alzheimer’s Disease. Earl also cared for his elderly mother until her passing. Therefore, he could relate to Nadine’s experiences. Earl, a cancer survivor, is a retiree of Eastern Airlines, a former mayor of Hanahan, and a previous District Field Representative for Congressman Henry Brown. With so much in common, Nadine and Earl felt that God had brought them together and they formed a very special relationship. Nadine and Earl were married in 2012. Earl said, “I am blessed that twice in my life I have had wonderful ladies. Linda was very special and Nadine is the same way.”
He continued with a smile, “Someone told me that most people go a lifetime and can’t even find the right one, but I’ve had two special ladies in my life.” Nadine nodded and continued, “Marvin’s last wish was for me to find someone that would make me happy. He wanted me to be able to do the things I was never able to do.” Nadine and Earl like many of the same hobbies such as building projects, traveling, and sharing their faith. They enjoy their cozy home in Hanahan, Charleston, a two-story southern home with a white gazebo, welcoming porches, rocking chairs, and a flower garden. Their home reflects two lives beautifully blended and blessed with old family photos, nostalgic treasures, favorite furnishings, and new family pictures. However, a notable item that seems to be consistent in every room is a well-worn bible. It has been said that a bible that is falling apart usually belongs to someone who isn’t.

This prompted me to ask Nadine how she has managed to cope with so much loss and sadness in her family. Nadine said, “My faith is the one thing I always had. Even though things were bad, I knew God was there.” Nadine learned early on that if she looked at things from a faith-based perspective, she could see God at work in the hardest of times. Nadine continued, “I think I felt Him the strongest going through Tina’s illness. It’s hard to watch your baby suffer.” However, she has also been with clients at the end of their life and has witnessed a lot of special things. She explained, “I have been with so many elderly people dying and they have seen loved ones who have already passed on. They have also heard the angels sing.” Nadine’s faith-based perspective has also allowed her to look back and see blessings that have come from the brokenness she experienced from losing almost every member of her family. Nadine said, “Many people came to us after Tina’s funeral to tell us how it had changed their lives.” She continued, “While you hate to see your baby suffer…if it hadn’t been for Tina’s suffering and death, they would not have been saved.” Nadine is extremely grateful for the time she had caring for Tina, Marvin, and her other loved ones. She said, “When you lose your whole family, you realize how precious the time is. I only have one child left and I realize how very precious that time is with him.”

Even though Nadine and Earl have entered into a beautiful new life together, they will both tell you without reservation that they still treasure the life they had with their late spouses. However, it is obvious they have been blessed with new love, new adventures and a new blended family to enjoy. That’s not to say that
life is now a fairy tale. Nadine and Earl have been through far too much to believe that.
Cont...
Just as a their new marriage was beginning, Earl and Nadine both found themselves facing yet another mountain of adversity. Earl’s prostrate cancer returned and to make matters worse, Nadine found out she had breast cancer. Nadine and Earl continued to rely on their faith, praying that God would intervene. Fortunately, both cancers were caught early and Nadine and Earl went through radiation together. While Earl’s cancer responded to radiation, Nadine’s did not, and she had further radiation and eventually, a double mastectomy. Fortunately, they were both declared cancer free in 2014.

I asked Nadine if she thought people would consider her as someone who was inspirational for overcoming some of life’s greatest challenges. Nadine humbly said, “God knows what each one of us are going to face before we are born and then if our hearts and minds are open to Him, He will lead us through it.” Nadine believes God wants us to face life’s overwhelming trials with tremendous faith in the Lord Jesus Christ. She emphasized the importance of putting our faith to the test and trusting that God will provide what we need to survive any obstacle. Nadine assured me with great confidence, “I can promise He will always bring you out on the other side of the mountain.”
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SPEAKLIFE STUDIO IT'S MORE THAN MUSIC SPEAKLIFE STUDIO RATES 359 WHITNEY ROAD, SUITE 14, SPARTANBURG, SC 29303 www.SPEAKLIFESTUDIO.com Cont... A few years ago my brother and I learned that there was going to be an auction of some of Richard Wright Simpson's things at an auction house in Pendleton. If you read my article a few months ago about the founding of Clemson College you remember he was Thomas Clemson's lawyer and per Clemson's will helped set up the college and served as its first President of Trustees. Among the many things being auctioned were some letters Simpson wrote explaining the founding of a group known as The Red Shirts. To understand who these men were we must look at the post war period here in South Carolina.
After the War Between the States South Carolina was an occupied country with Federal appointees running the state. In 1874 Daniel Henry Chamberlain was elected Governor in a heated and highly controversial election running against General Wade Hampton III.

Born in Massachusetts in 1835, Chamberlain had served in the Union army as a Lieutenant in the 5th Massachusetts Cavalry and moved to South Carolina to tend to the affairs of a deceased friend. His tenure in office was tainted with a reputation for his willingness to make his office pay and riddled with corruption. It is this election that found the formation of the Red Shirts and the following letter written By Richard Simpson details some of these events. I have several letters he wrote on this topic and one written to the Honorable W. H. Wallace in Union , South Carolina dated September 8th, 1887. The letter below, however, is not dated and addressed only to "Madam". The information it contains is priceless and an enjoyable read as the language of the period is very precise and quite different from today. It was the Red Shirts who stormed the State Capital building in Columbia to end Chamberlain's governorship and installing Wade Hampton as Governor . I will use Simpson's 2nd letter in the April Issue detailing the takeover of the Capital building .
Dear Madam:

I see by the paper that you and the Committee are trying to obtain accurate information about the verse of the Red Shirt campaign of 1876, and I herewith send you a correct statement of when and where it originated and who suggested the red flannel as a uniform

Governor Hampton selected Anderson County at which place to hold his first campaign meeting. A few days before this campaign meeting was to take place it was proposed at Pendleton to organize a club for this campaign. I, at that time was a member of the Legislature from Anderson County, and was asked by young men , who were active in organizing the club, to preside at the meeting and protect them from violation of the law, which at that time prohibited white men from organizing military companies.

The morning before the club was to be organized , I, with several others in the town of Pendleton, were discussing the prospects of success, and I suggested that these clubs would never be successful unless they were uniformed., and that the uniform ought to be something conspicuous and cheap so that every man could afford to purchase it , and suggested a red flannel shirt. We thereupon got up at once and went to one of the stores tin the town to inquire if they had the material, and what it would cost. The merchant, J.D.Smith, said he had the material and that he would sell it at cost for that purpose. One of the men present, Mr. A.J.Sutton, purchased enough of the material and had it made into a shirt, and offered it at the meeting that was that evening over which I presided, as the uniform of the club and it was adopted. The first red shirt was made by Mr. Sutter's sister Miss Emma Sutter.

Mr. J.J.Lewis, Captain of the club organized at Central, was present; he caught the idea , and at once proceeded to have his club uniformed. A nearby club also tried to obtain the material for the uniform , but it was exhausted, and I told this club on the morning of the campaign to put on white shirts and when they got near to Anderson to pull off their coats and sit on them, and the white shirt would be as conspicuous a uniform as the red .

These three companies agreed to go to Anderson to the campaign meeting together on horseback. We had a brass band of young white men at Pendleton at the time , and they had a regular band wagon drawn by four horses. They painted this wagon as red as it could be painted. The musicians dressed in red and flags were flying from all parts of the wagon heads of the horses.
When these clubs got near to Anderson I rode on ahead to see what was the program. Governor Hampton had just told Gen. Humphries, who was the Marshall of the day , to form the clubs and march across the town to the place where the speaking was to be held. In a few minutes the head of these three companies, proceeded by the band wagon , came into view, and the band at once struck up Dixie. Their appearance created a profound excitement. Governor Hampton, himself, met the first company that got to the gates of the fairgrounds ,and shook hands with them and cried like a baby. The earth fairly shook with the excitement and applause created by the appearance of these companies. There were quite a number of prominent men, who had come to this, the first campaign meeting, to help give it a good send off., and I was told that they immediately telegraphed to their county to uniform their clubs in red flannel.

Now There is no doubt that Mr. A.J.Sutton wore the first red shirt, and presented it to the club as a uniform, but there is no doubt whatever that I suggested this uniform, and the red shirt, as if by magic, became the uniform of the whit people in the campaign.

I have a delicacy in writing this article , but as you want the truth, I thought it but right to give it to you. I am sorry that so many people witnesses to these facts are dead, but Gov. Hampton and all the prominent men at the time knew of these facts, who originated the Red Shirt, and Gov. Hampton appointed me as Chief of the Staff , with the rank of Colonel of Cavalry in appreciation of my services, which I have just set forth.

Very truly yours,

R.W.Simpson
UPSTATE EXPOSURES MAGAZINE EATS COLUMN Upstate Exposures Magazine EATS columnist, Dennis Evans, has been making his way around the Upstate this last month checking out all the new eateries that are popping up all over region.

When he finds a restaurant with a particularly sinful sauce, or a decadent dish, maybe a singing staff or an artsy decor, he's very sneaky about taking some pictures and sharing them with the readers of Upstate Exposures Magazine.

You never know where Dennis will turn up for dinner or lunch. He could be anywhere in Spartanburg, Greenville, or any one of the many towns in between with hidden culinary gems just waiting to be discovered.

And if you've found an eatery that knows how to butter their rolls just right, give him a holler, he just might check them out and take a picture or two.
So, where did Dennis go this month?

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